How to Deal with Conflict
The RBC Technique Nice Guys tend to have the problem with dealing directly with conflict. Any time there is a conflict a Nice Guy will typically acquiesce in attempt to maintain the peace. Of course, there is a price to this submission – the conflict never gets resolved. Typically, a Nice Guy will slink off after avoiding a confrontation and lick his wounds as a victim. Then instead of dealing with the problem directly, he will express his anger if a passive-aggressive manner. I knew a married woman at work who was intelligent, funny and quite pretty. However, she had the unfortunate habit of spending much of her time in an inappropriate manner with other men. Her husband was the typical Nice Guy. He provided well, was kind and considerate. He also had the Nice Guy trait of avoiding conflict. So instead of dealing with the situation directly, he just pouted and became resentful. According to her, he was always acting in a passive-aggressive manner. Years later I learned that she divorc...